Today we talk about Relationship Intelligence: An Update on the Profile of Long-lasting Marriage, a book by Cherrel J. Francisca. published with our publishing house Europe Books.
Europe Books had the pleasure of interviewing the author, Cherrel J. Francisca, to get to know her better, what prompted her to the writing of her book Relationship Intelligence: An Update on the Profile of Long-lasting Marriage, as well as the sensations she felt by ‘reading’ your life on the pages of your book
Below you can find our interview. Take a seat and enjoy your reading!!!
- Where and when did you find the inspiration to write your book?
During the Covid Lock down period I have started to write the first version. I’ve seen that divorce is taking pandemic proportion worldwide and decided write e book validated by scientific data and supported by my experience as researcher and relationship expert for about 20 years. Divorce has been defying marriages successfully in the last six decades in most countries and cultures worldwide. Divorce has also successfully challenged proposed solutions or therapist prescriptions for years. The pinnacle of concern for both experts and couples is the fact that most people get married under the assumption and strong conviction that “this person is the one” and this often turns out not to be true, “all you need is love” turns into love is not enough, “this person can perform and make the magic of happiness happen” turns not to be true, “he/she is so good that I chose him/her to be with me for the rest of my life” turns into “he/she is not the long-expected suitable life partner,” and ultimately, “he/she is a believer and church-going person so it is going to work”, and still 35% of believers’ (born-again Christians’) marriages end up in divorce anyway. This has inspired me to write a book to provide solution to this worldwide problem.
- What is the message you want to convey to your readers?
That marriage and relationship is the best! This book “Relationship Intelligence: An Update on the Profile of Long-lasting Marriages contains the information that social scientists and relationship experts want you to know for divorce immunity. It provides an update on the information today’s couples need to ensure the relationship of their dreams. It presents the 12 pivotal relationship competences couples must have or develop in order to “vaccinate” their relationship or strengthen the immune system of their marriage against divorce. These competences are indicative of relationship intelligence that makes relationships durable or long-lasting. Couples with relationship intelligence will have successful and resilient marriages/relationships that provide high satisfaction for both partners. This book presents research-based information along with practical and inspiring suggestions for actions couples can take to move their relationship forward. After reading this book, the reader will be able to avoid typical and classical pitfall that leads to divorce, strengthen their “relationship’s immune system” and enjoy having the tools to skillfully manage through and overcome challenges they may face in marital relationship. The “I got these feelings” will replace doubt and incompetency and propels them into the relationship of their dream.
- What significant life experiences find expression in your book?
Couples that have participated in the Relationship Education Program and/or Premarital education program using this book have improved their relationship significantly and are among the happiest couple. Those that participated in the experimental research we did in order to develop the concept presented in this book are happy and growing stronger and stronger in their relationships.
- What sensations did you feel by ‘reading’ your life on the pages of your book?
Happy, because these advises have worked for me…I have been married for about 30 years and are still experiencing intense happiness.
- Are you working on a new writing project, you can tell us about?
Yes, I am working on a special book on sexuality.
Europe Books thanks the author, Cherrel J. Francisca, once again for taking the time and answering our questions. We are really pleased to have walked alongside her on the editorial path that led to the publication of her book Relationship Intelligence: An Update on the Profile of Long-lasting Marriage. We wish her the best of luck for her future works.
To you, my dear reader, I wish that the suggestions here provided will be very useful and will motivate you as to make your relationship better and of an higher quality; or if you have already been lucky to find your soul mate, they will help you consolidating the relationship built over time, avoiding the typical and classic trap that leads to divorce.
So, my dear reader, all I have to say is to enjoy this useful and practical reading!